The Internet itself doesn’t inherently lead to a scarcity of attention. For instance, my online community, Mind Map Nation, thrives on fostering connections through thoughtful conversation. It's the second-order effects enabled by the Internet that's responsible for the deficiency.
Attention-grabbing headlines, advertisements that foster a scarcity mindset by playing into our insecurities, and the resulting drive to work more, make more, and spend more, all contribute to eroding our time, patience, and the attention necessary for deep listening. Recent advancements in AI will likely accelerate this trend.*
Bottom line is that communication doesn't automatically lead to connection. To genuinely connect, we need to replenish our attention. Unplugging from digital devices provides respite for our overstimulated minds. Spending time alone allows us to reflect, listen and digest our thoughts, experiences and feelings. Meditation restores our sense of presence, so that we’re not always worrying about future or ruminating over the past. All these activities contribute to our capacity to deeply listen and connect to others when the time calls for it.
A final note. Deep listening is a powerful skill, offering profound benefits not only in conflict resolution but also creating lasting and healthy relationships necessary for our happiness and career growth. But like all skills, we either use it or lose it. The choice is ours.
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*My prediction is that generative AI will only amplify the noise by stimulating content creation, and improving ads and media targeting (which are inextricably tied to our current online business model paradigm). This then simultaneously increases our desire for more and competition between companies, thereby driving up the intensity of our workloads and offsetting AI enabled efficiencies.
This cycle can only be broken if we realize what’s going on, and choose to determine for ourselves what is “enough” rather than being influenced by external forces. For that to happen, however, we need to know what we truly want, which many of us have never given much thought to. If you’re ready to embark on a journey of self discovery, then I encourage you to check out my Empowering Mind Maps course.